The other day, a friend said some hurtful things, yet one cannot take it personally. The person talking to me was not the person I knew and loved. If a person you know is not acting her/himself, disregarding their dreams and being negative and slightly abusive, the questions is Do you turn your back on them? Do you walk away? This was my first instinct, to reject the bad taste left in my mouth and distance myself from the person leaving it. Yet strangely, (perhaps after too many episodes of Doctor Who) instead of judging the alien who is before me, I look for remnants of my friend. Somewhere in there under a thick layer of fear and ego, the core of the person you love exists. To help them find their humanity, empathy and find the beauty in life, you must help them remember their dreams and themselves. You do not abandon them, even if he/she was a Dalek. This is not to say that getting rid of negativity and negative people is a bad thing, but sometimes someone is just a little lost. (Geek reference in Season 8, Episode 2 the Doctor helps a Dalek find its humanity after it's normal neuron path is damaged, he fixes it so it is again destructive, and then helps it again find beauty in life)
While perhaps your life doesn't follow after Doctor Who series, that could be a bit disruptive :) yet life can be a good adventure though, and sometimes you lose your adventure companion to the aliens but you always rescue him because that is what good companions do.
You can read more about empathy and how neural changes really can alter someone's morality in the link below. You can remap your neurons if you work at it, and this does change your "reality."
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